Sunday, December 07, 2008

sigh

Why do I do this to myself? Seriously. Every time I am pregnant, I get this feeling like I have to "prove" that I can handle having another child. The house has to be spotless, homemade dinners, organized, calm, collected. I also do this after the child is born. After Ivan was born, a friend called to ask me what time would be nice to drop dinner off, when she asked what I was doing, I said dishes. There was a long pause, and she told me to put them down and go lay down. The dishes could wait. But I didn't want anyone to drop food off to me in a messy house. Heaven Forbid.

So I feel bad that I am not handling everything I need to handle, but hello, walking down the stairs gets me nauseaous!I was up 3 times last night going to the bathroom. I had my first ever migraine yesterday(never want to go through that AGAIN) and couldn't even bend over without having a nice sharp pain go to the side of my head. Ahhh lovely.

I am givng myself permission to take it a little easier today. My house is a mess. I have piles and piles of laundry to wash, dishes are lining my counters. My bed is not made, the playroom had a hurricane go through it (at least I am pretty sure that is what happened)and you know what I am going to do? Clean? Just work through the nausea? No, no, no, no!

I am going to eat lunch, and then Ivan and I will be taking a nap. The dishes can wait right?

8 comments:

heidigoseek said...

uh...yeah:)
i'm with you on that one!

Christy said...

Ben has been taught to do laundry and dishes in case he forgot. Harmony, Ethan and Connor are all old enough to help out. Don't forget to allow them the blessings for doing so.

Marie said...

Christy I think Ben did forget! :) Actually he was really sweet about taking care of me yesterday while I had that migraine!

Angie said...

Marie, you know I've done this 6 times over and I'm telling you its ok to take care of yourself. We can't always be supermom and do it all. I'm not pregnant but sometimes I barely keep up. Don't be so hard on yourself and take care of yourself for awhile. Get the kids to help and of course Ben. Feel better!

becky said...

Definately the dishes can wait. For migraines....I get them all the time. For the first 25 weeks I was getting at least 1 a week. As soon as I feel that one is going to come on, I take tylenol, take out my contacts and I start chugging water. It isn't fool proof but it did seem to make them tolerable. At least I could almost relax. It is worth a try anyway. For the nausea, have you tried taking a 1/2 a unisom at night. It is the only thing that helps me. Us mom's gotta stick together. :)

Anna said...

Good for you! Isn't it amazing though how if you stop for even a few hours the house can completely fall apart? I hope you feel better soon!

Marie said...

Becky I am going to try your ideas! I had planned to buy some unisom today because I was up every hour last night. Finally falling asleep at like 5:30 only to have Ben's alarm go off 15 minutes later!

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and supports. You would think I would have figured this out the 5th time around but...

The Anglesey Family said...

You're such a good mom!