my new rule

I try and try to teach my children that it is not ok to hit. Or pinch. Or kick. That we need to leave our " hands, feet and harsh words to ourselves". This is not an easy task. So this morning, as we are driving to school, Connor starts crying because Ethan hit him. Ethan has been testing me a lot lately, and so because I was fed up...I let Connor decide Ethan's punishment. No legos, Batmans, video games or computer for the rest of the day. Done deal. A little bit ago, Connor again, came in crying. This time because Harmony hit him. So Connor got to pick her punishment...couldn't go outside and can't play on the computer for the rest of the day. As you can tell, Connor has had a rough day!! While he gets to pick their punishment, it only gets to be for the rest of the day. No longer. So the "victim" gets to pick the punishment, that is the new rule. And no matter what happens, I am going to go with it....well to a point. Maybe they will finally learn to leave each other alone. Who knows. All I know is that I am frustrated dealing with it!